A Gardeners Forum Forums General Discussion The Banter Hall coffee house 2089 ~ with faith cindy will be fine.

Goodnight Jiffy. I'm just back in from bedding down my foster dogs.

Hello all.

Gotta go get ready or I'd stick around and chat.

Me and mom are taking dad to his doctors appointment, which will last 3 hours....so we are going shopping while we wait for him.

Probably won't be back until later this afternoon!

Loz, you big shopper

Have a great day. Sending for your mom and dad.

Good morning, everyone ~

I am having a slow start to my day. The phone work me up about 1 1/2 hours ago and I've been yakking ever since with one call after another!

I did manage to make some coffee and eat a little between calls! Leftovers are an ideal blessing for fast meals!

I have much to do today before dialysis, so I'm off for now.

Merme

Morning-
we had a nice Easter day- kids were all here- no egg hunt back yard was to wet from melting snow... but they had fun anyway-
Carrie and Teresa did most of the cooking and Carrie cleaned up after.. that was really nice.. Mom enjoyed seeing the kids playing too and seems to be remembering more every day- we had a decent night too- only got up a few times... and I went right back to sleep after so I actually feel almost normal now- I have lost 10 lbs though- not that I couldn't stand to lose 100 more too , I have made the decesion I can't keep her here much longer- I am already having problems again health wise with the lack of sleep- can't keep that up or I won't be any good for anyone- she won't like it but we are going to have to get her on medicade and see if we can find her a good nursing home- close enough to visit but where she gets good care too- I just don't have the stamina to keep this up for a long time... kills me to do it but I have a husband to take care of too and he is facing his own health problems right now... can't let him down ...
Nana

Nana ~ I know that is a tough decision to make but it may very well be best for all of you.

I'm glad your Easter was so happy!

Merme

Thanks friend Merme,
wasn't an easy decision for me to come to but everyone except my sis agrees with me- she doesn't have a clue as to what it takes to really take care of her at this stage and all she is intrested in is her money... that will go with her to a nursing home..will take all of it and medicaid to pay for it.. right now she is paying most of my sis's bills for her- or sis is taking it to pay her bills... that will have to stop really soon.
Joe just fed the boys lunch and I napped from 10 to now- that felt really good.. needed it too.
I need to get Mom lunch now and let her eat before the boys want to color at the table... they have been playing outside this morning - it's a nice day today.
Nana

Hi all, so sorry for your situation Nana. I agree your husband and your health must be looked after first

Yes, that is a tough decision. But one most of us have to make at some time or another. Location is good but look for activities offered, too. If she is close by you can take her out to lunch once in a while. Or shopping. If there are a lot of activities offered at the home you chose, she can be kept busy. The best is if she can make some friends there to occupy her. Activity is the key. Good luck, Nana.

Hi Tina. how are you?

Thanks Tina and Tamara,
It is hard to make this decision- part of the problem with her is she isn't a social person- never has been- so she has to be dragged into it... she likes to read and do her puzzle books...watch tv - only some shows...like Walker and Murder she Wrote- the newer stuff she has no use for... today we get a visit form an occupational therapist- sure hope she cooperates with it- usually she just grins and does what they want till they go away..
Nana

My grandfather was the same...until he fell and broke his hip. We had no choice but to put him in a special care home then. He's a very big man and we had no way of lifting him at home.

He just loves the care home now, says he would of moved there long ago if he would have known....and this from a man who never left the bedroom, never wanted anyone to visit or bother him. He's a changed person...so happy now.
Shocked us for sure.

Yes, care homes are just what some people need. They bloom in there if they are somewhat mobile and can get interested in the events going on around them. People with moderate dimentia (sundowners where they are more confused at night) Can get the meds they need when they need them.
Still prayers for your hubby, Nana. I know these tests are worrisome for you, too.

:Wavy:

felt it my need to check in with everyone here! [ ..and so Carol doesn't yell at me again on AIM ]

I been so busy with school and home stuff i havn't had much of a chance to come online at all!
I'm on my AIM account alot... but most of the time thats just to get myself out of/attempt to stop more of this stupid teenage drama that seems all too common
havn't really started anything much outside in my infamous veggie garden yet
i'm all prepared though, it's still been very cold[although above freezing].. too cold to do much of anything outside though... i did notice that all the daffodils, tulips, and lillies are coming up though

hope everyone is doing well, and had a great easter!

I know most of you have my email address, but if anyone would like it they can PM me for it

still praying for Cindy as well!

--Mark, the commonly AWOL little sprout--

OK---I have a few minutes here before my company comes. My DH's nephew (so mine as well)--his wife & their 3 children are coming to stay.---They are making their yearly visit with grandma & since she is in the assisited living, they stay with me---

I will be busy with them until sometime Wednesday afternoon. So when you do not see me here you will know all is well and i am OK.


Also--if there is something I NEED/SHOULD know---somebody can call me, OK ??

FYI: the little ones will be sleeping in the bedroom where I have the computer---so it will likely be completely turned off for the duration of their visit.

hi mark, missed you

nana you are making one of the hardest, and wisest decisions you could make. i was the only one with my mother and it was so nice to enjoy my visits with her because i wasn't the care giver when she was in the home. no resentment, no exhaustion. and your sister will get over it. my brother did. took him a while, but he did.

hi everyone!

Hi Jiffy. I'm snacking my way through dinner. Leftover kfc and potato chips.

dinner for me too, but mine is steak and tater tots. matthew and i collaberated

i was going to pan fry the steaks but matthew decided that grilling them was better. so i let him, and put tater tots in the oven

well, i think i'll close this. someone else can open a new one, i'm going to bed! g'night all.