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a little thing that makes a difference


that's what the lovely home made card says that I received from dodge. I'm not posting a picture because it's in yellow (my favorite color she remembered) and doesn't show up in the picture. dodge is quite the artist.

The card held red coreopsis seeds, Texas Bluebonnet seeds and Love In a Mist seeds.

The envelope has a stickers of a bird on it and the stamps are sunflowers.


Made my week.

Very cool. Barb has been busy lately. And sharing her spring.

that's awesome. barb is pretty cool, isn't she

Yes she is!
Our creative card Giver!

do you think she's trying to tell me something??? Possibly to straighten out my attitude.

THANK YOU SHERI, AND ALL THE ABOVE......my computer was capoo last nite.. I just found all of you this a.

Sheri......you read that so correctly......Yellow I did remember.. after all the talk of a yellow car.LOL

Sheri .... trying to tell you something, just wanting you to remember I did send the blue bonnets ..LOL

enjoy......2010..bb

Glad you got a kick out of my chicken scratch.+++++++++++

I didn't know you are such an artist. I appreciate the work you put into that card - a ribbon too. You're a thoughtful person dodge.

Dodge is very sweet! You are putting a smile on a lot of faces, Barb!! :wink:

sheri/plantqueen...
love ya

My card was handmade as well----Yes, Barb is quite the creative person. Your card sounds really pretty Sheri... and such nice flowers as well----Our Barb has been one busy little beaver hasn't she?? We can look at our flowers this summer and smile thinking of Barb, HUH???

Attitude does make the difference. It seems to me though that we're born with our attitude. I can see it in our grand children. The oldest on, Alexis, has a horrible attitude and has since she was a baby. She's going to be 12 next week and hasn't changed a bit no matter how much punishment she goes through.

perhaps your Alexis knows my youngest???? no matter what she was told or taught it was the same with her--it is how she sees it and everyone else is "mistaken".

how do you deal with her Carol Jean. I can't believe Alexis has any friends. She's so mean and loud and disrespectful. She is punished constantly. Her comment is "this is the way I am. Get used to it." Her parents really try. She's usually nice when she's with me but her mood can change in the blink of an eye. We went to her ballgame last Monday and she didn't speak to either of us. When she was barely old enough to talk she would be sent to her room for some reason and after a while her mom or dad would ask if she had learned a lesson so she could come out. She'd say no and have to stay in her room.

i THINK i AGREE WITH SHERI,

My sons first words after the first day of school were.

YOU GAVE ME TOO MUCH LUNCH......

HE STILL ISNT AN EATER.. SKINNY BONES.

well when Emily was small, it was so darn cute I would laugh and then I would have to scold her for talking like that to me--I have told many "Emily" storey's here in the past. and yes we would spank her, send her to her room, hand out various punishemnts---it did not phase her. she was however very well behaved in public--well to the public--now me in public that was another matter.

I just kept telling her what behavior I expected out of her and what was not acceptable in this house. She is still strong willed today, and still looks at things in her "own way" but she is a lot differnt that the "strong-willed child she used to be---

Go try and rent this from the Library--it helped us some-a child psychologist recomendedto us, told us that Emily was a child who had to be in control & we had to learn how to "handle her being that way" apparently there are classes.
as an example"
instead of saying to the strong-willed child go get dressed in this outfit say I want you to wear this or this--you can decide--the child then feels in control but in fact the choices have just become limited, satisfying whatis acceptable in society and by mom & dad. They learn what is good and right then as well.

book is: The Good Kid Book by Howard N. Sloane

BTW: MY Emily, (grown now) is a very intelligent person--I am betting that Alexis is as well--it is my belief that that inters into it somehow....

I'll suggest that book to her parents. Was Emily disrespectful? We went out to eat the other night, a big group of us, and Alexis was so loud no one could enjoy it. I think part of the problem is that her mother will make threats then not carry through. Her dad carries through more. He was supposed to take the girls to a father-daughter dance and Alexis was acting up, after they were dressed, and he told her if she didn't stop it she wasn't going. She kept right on so he didn't take her. They had been looking forward to this, got new dresses, had their nails done and she refused to behave to go. I hope she gets better as she gets older.

sounds as if she might be acting out for attention ?? perhaps trying to push her parents to see how far they will really go---and just how much she can get away with????

I am sure Emily was disrespectful to her daddy, me & her grandparents (some) but you know how the mind forgets things like that---one thing I wll say I do remember---when she was old enough to know better she would act out in church--now she was old enough to KNOW how to behave there and her sister always did behave in church, so she had someone to emulate, but I think she also knew there would be no recrimitations if she did. (well not right away that is).

with her like I said it was a lot about control

Alexis's birthday was yesterday. Her mom is out of town with a bachelorette party so she had some friends over at her dads to spend the night. She turned 12. Johnny stopped by and gave her $50.00 (remember she wanted money for Christmas so he figured she'd want it now)and she wouldn't even come downstairs to talk to him. Her dad tried to make her come downstairs and she said she was busy with her friends. Her dad started to go up and drag her down but Johnny told him not to bother. She did call the next day but I'm sure it was because her dad punished her. Her dad said they've told her that they are keeping track of every time she is rude to people from now on and she won't get to do something she wants to do for every person she treats that way. I'm beginning to believe she's right when she says it's just her personality and she's not going to change.

sheri, it may be part of her personality, however, we all have parts of our personality that we have to curb or moderate for the benefit of our place in society. as anyone who collects (and has the memory for) random trivia. it gives them an incredible fact basis, but also makes them appear to be a "know it all" when they share that information unasked. even though sharing what we learn is half the fun of learning (which is why we have teachers).

others are the ones who "have" to be the ones to do something. it takes practice to learn to let someone else go first.

i sincerely hope they do not let her get away with "it's just my personality" and continue to try to teach this child social skills. selfishness can be overcome.

they are trying but the punishment doesn't seem to work. I'm constantly amazed she has any friends. She's 12 so maybe she'll get over it but we've sort of said this all along - she's only 3 maybe she'll learn to share - she's only 5 maybe she'll get tired of being sent to her room for talking back and so on.